Connect with Your Calling

Dear Friends and Clients,

Apologies for the radio-silence, I know it’s been a while. As some of you know, I am not typically a main-stream kind of woman, however for the last several years, I have been relegated to a quite organized mission. And as soon as 2018 presented itself, I took my final state exam and became a licensed psychotherapist. Like many of us do, I battled for months with my inner critic. She’s a sassy little piece of work, saying things like, “You took too long.”  And, “So now what”? Or, “What’s your calling now?”

Isn’t it interesting how we can spend years and years dedicating ourselves to something, yet still self-scrutinize? I am here right now to remind you, DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE (of your inner critic).

We are all on the path we are meant to lead.

I have been spending a lot of my time pondering what that statement means. It is interesting and extremely challenging when we question and confront what our “calling” is, especially when we don’t know exactly. It’s like bathing in some kind of subjective, confusing goop. It encompasses your whole being until all you can do is surrender.

So, surrender.  Surrender and observe.

Sit with yourself. Feel the sensations in your body and pay attention to them. Where do you feel space and ease in your body? Where does it feel tight or agitated? Breathe into it. It only takes five to ten minutes to explore what how the body is responding to what is happening in the moment. Exploring body-centered (somatic) awareness is profoundly simple. It doesn’t take a four week course. It doesn’t require an expert yogi or therapist. And when its utilized effectively, it can assist you to look at what drives you, both the conscious and unconscious aspects of Self and life. And when the inner critic rears its ugly head, observe it; just as you observe the things you love. As Daniel Siegle M.D. said,  “If you name it, you tame it.”

Can you enter each day knowing that you are being more of who you are meant to be without judging yourself, blaming others, or wishing you were someone else? It’s hard, I know. It’s so easy to be self-deprecating, even for the most confident of souls. What will it take to truly accept where you are? Who you are?

Can we move in the direction our higher self intends, and at the same time cut ourselves a little slack? My sense is that this is our ultimate mission and the ultimate quandary.

And for many, it is quite easy to ignore everything I am saying right now. It is easier to live in a comfortable bubble absorbing the status quo and exhaling normalcy. However, if you are like many of us and seek answers… If you want to squeeze out every drop of life you can because you realize life is fucking short, I encourage you to explore – like I am awkwardly doing – what you’re made of. If you have a calling to do something out of the ordinary, do it! If you feel you are in a dead-end situation at work or in your marriage, change it.

Being a bereavement counselor for the last two years has taught me so much about the swiftness of life. Tomorrow is now, and it’s all going to be over before we know it. I don’t mean to scare you. There is profound beauty in being in touch with our mortality and the fragility – and dynamism – of life. Every waking second we are alive is a miracle and there is absolutely no reason you should should hold back from doing what your heart longs to do (while being responsible and honoring your obligations of course).

So anyway, keep being you. And, if there is a part of that you that isn’t being fully expressed, get curious about it. And if you feel you need support on this journey, feel free to email me or schedule an appointment for bodywork, psychotherapy, energy healing, or yoga.

Wishing you all the best this life has to offer,

-Romi

LMFT (Licensed Motivational Freaky Thinker and Marriage and Family Therapist)

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