Writing blog posts and staying connected to clients and friends virtually is an interesting process. I want to stay connected and remind people of what I offer, all the while trying not to bombard them with extraneous articles or self-promoting spiritual rhetoric. It can certainly feel inauthentic and counter-intuitive to “sell” healing-focused services, yet people do it every day and business is business, right? Not really. I think a lot about authenticity and what it means for each of us. I especially ponder this in the morning, just before having coffee and figuring out how much time I have to either meditate, stretch, or frantically run around and get shit done. My father has more integrity than anyone I know and he always tells me to “do something for its own sake”. Even when my ego puts a banana peel underneath my integrity, I strive to have that statement be my life-mantra.
Attempting to market something as intimate as psychotherapy, bodywork, and healing can feel like inter-psychic tight-rope walking. Authenticity is important and it cannot always coexist with ego-driven marketing approaches; at least not for me. I have an enormous amount of respect for individuals who are able to professionally put themselves out there while operating from the heart. It is a meaningful skill and something to be proud of.
There are so many ways to express meaning in our day-to-day experiences, yet often authenticity seems to slip through the cracks of good intentions and productive life goals. Have you ever found yourself moving along the path, mostly in alignment with what you are meant to do, yet somehow forgetting how you got to that path in the first place? Or do you wonder what would have happened if you took a different route? It is natural to question things and challenge ourselves to do better and be in alignment with our destiny. It is also important to stay in touch with the lived experience of life in the body, as not to get swept away by critical thinking or mental confusion.
In other words, challenge yourself to be authentic every single day, but also cut yourself a little slack.
Some steps to tap into AUTHENTICITY and support LIFE FLOW.
Take a moment to pause and be grateful for what you have. Visualize what you’re grateful for, honor it, and be thankful for it.
One great practice is taking slow breaths for a minute or so, and then doing an easy pranayama: Inhale 4, hold 8, Exhaling 4. Practice for five + minutes.
Where do you feel sensations? What do they feel like? Assign adjectives to the sensations. Are there emotions you can associate with those sensations?
After taking some minutes to do the above, write out your goals or authenticity-driven plans for that day, week, year. Then check back in with your body. Does it feel spacious and connected to what your are writing? Or restricted and lacking resonance? Usually our bodies will inform us of what we need to know and if what we are working on is in alignment with our path. This isn’t to say everything we do professionally or personally must always feel peachy. Life is full of ups and downs and it’s our biologically job to ride the wave as long as we can; ideally guided with compassion and insight. Body awareness and mindfulness enable us to live with more authenticity and grace. It’s that simple. The next time you are questioning what is going on in your life, or how to be more authentic, slow down and sense; and then maybe grab a pen and get curious about your next steps.
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We had such an amazing time with Peru this year, doing yoga, laughing, connecting with the community, and galavanting around sacred sites. What a blessing. I am currently starting the planning stage for our Retreat to Peru and Machu Picchu, 2015. Email me if you would like more information.
My article “Attractive Love Through Self Love: A Somatic Inquiry” was recently published online on Rebelle Society Click Here to Read
I am currently in Santa Barbara, California seeing private clients for massage, healing work, counseling, and yoga instruction. Email or call me for an appointment. Current group yoga class offerings include: Mondays & Wednesdays at the Santa Barbara Yoga Center 5-6:30pm. 32 East Micheltorena St. 93101.